The Bible is loaded with verses that speak to the issue. Jesus said it best when He said, "If anyone seeks to follow after me he must deny himself, pick up his cross and follow me". John the baptist said, "I must decrease and He must increase". The greatests commandments, according to Christ, show this as well: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength. Love your neighbor as yourself." The scriptures repeatedly command us to die to our own needs and wants and desires...to be other focused rather than self focused...to put Christ first in all things...and when we die to ourselves we are free to live for Him...and He IS love. Check out these verses and ask the Lord to give you wisdom to understand all of this and to apply it to your life! Luke 6:31-36 Romans 13:8-10 1 Corinthians 13 1 John 5:1-2