Pray for him and if you have children make sure that he is not doing the same to them. My former husband was the same way until I reminded him of something simple he did that I helped him and our family recover from. I really believe that the verbal abuse stems from self hatred and I curse that abuse in the name of Jesus! I speak life to peace in your home and I also rebuke the spirit of fear. Walk in integrety and never allow yourself to focus on him but focus on how good God is. Let Him be true and every man a liar. Your husband himself is not the enemy and I am sure you know that but the enemy is using him.